As We Remember Them

In the rising of the sun and in it’s going down,

we remember them.

In the blowing of the wind and in the chill of the winter,

we remember them.

In the opening of buds and in the rebirth of spring,

we remember them.

At the blueness of the skies and in the warmth of summer,

we remember them

In the rustling of leaves and in the beauty of autumn,

we remember them.

In the beginning of the year and when it ends,

we remember them.

When we are weary and in need of strength,

we remember them.

When we are lost or sick at heart,

we remember them.

When we have joys we yearn to share,

we remember them.

When we have decisions too difficult to make,

we remember them.

When we have achievements that are based on them,

we remember them.

So for as long as we live, they too shall live…

For they are now a part of us,

as we remember them.

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I wish

I wish Angel of Hope

I wish you wouldn’t try to comfort me by saying something to try to make me be OK with my child’s death. I am more comforted when you acknowledge how sad it is.

I wish you wouldn’t feel so uncomfortable when I mention my child’s name. I also wish you would not be afraid to speak my child’s name. My child lived and it brings me comfort to hear their name.

I wish you wouldn’t think that when we talk about my child, if I cry or get emotional that you have hurt me. The fact that my child has died is causing my tears. You have allowed me to cry and share my sadness with you and I am grateful because you are helping me to heal.

I wish you would accept that I will have emotional highs and lows. Please don’t think that if I have a good day my grieving is over, or if I have a bad day I need counseling or medication.

I wish you knew that the death of a child is different from other losses and must be viewed as the unique loss that it is. It is the ultimate tragedy and I wish you wouldn’t compare it to the loss of a parent, spouse or pet.

I wish you wouldn’t shy away from me. I feel alone enough missing my child, I feel more alone missing you also. And it makes me wonder if you think being a bereaved parent is contagious.

I wish you knew that all the crazy grief reactions I am having are, in fact, normal. Depression, anger, frustration, guilt, and the questioning of values and beliefs are all a part of grieving the death of a child.

I wish you wouldn’t expect my grieving to be over in a few months. The first few years are going to be exceedingly traumatic and difficult for me.

I wish you would accept that like an alcoholic, I will never be “cured” or a “former bereaved parent”. I will forever be a “grieving parent”.

I wish you wouldn’t measure my partner’s grief against mine. We’re trying to understand the differences in how we’re grieving. You can help by caring for us both equally at this time of need.

I wish you would understand the physical reactions to grief. I may gain or lose weight, sleep all the time or not at all, be absent minded, develop a host of illnesses, be accident prone, sigh all the time, and over react to almost everything; all of which are related to my grieving.

I wish you would tell me if you are thinking of my child on their birthday, the anniversary of their death, or any special day. Be assured I will be thinking of them. Special days will be more difficult for me than other times. So if I get quiet and withdrawn know that I am thinking about my child and missing them terribly.

I wish you wouldn’t expect me to get back to my “old self”, and be the same person I was before my child died. I can’t be that person again, I am now different. But I hope you can accept how I’ve changed, because then you may find that you like the “new me”.

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A Wave of Light – Pregnancy & Infant Loss Memorial Service

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On October 15th, we will be holding our annual Pregnancy and Infant Loss Memorial Service.

A time when all grieving parents can come together and be surrounded by love and support from their friends and families, a time where the community can learn to better understand their pain and how to reach out to those grieving. This would be a time to reflect on the loss yet embrace the love. While our babies’ lives were so brief, they were also very meaningful. Yet, there was not a time to talk about them. Our society seemed to forget or perhaps, simply don’t know how to reach out.

Join us in Remembering at a Candle Lighting Ceremony on October 15th @ 7pm

Ceremony Location: Sunshine Park, Altamonte Springs

Parking at 612 Newport Avenue, Altamonte Springs

Please RSVP: cflangels@gmail.com, or (407) 260-9222

Donations gratefully accepted at the ceremony.

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Fourth Annual Angel of Hope Candlelight Vigil

7-8 p.m.
December 6, 2013
Sunshine Park
888 Oakland Road
Altamonte Springs

You are invited to the 4th annual Angel of Hope of Central Florida Candlelight Vigil and Remembrance Ceremony to honor all children who have died. Families are encouraged to lay flowers or another personal item at the base of the Angel as the names of children are read aloud.

Free parking across from the park at Lake Orienta Elementary School.

RSVP to cflangels@gmail.com or 407-260-9222

The Angel of Hope’s purpose is to promote healing for anyone who has been touched by the death of a child. Sunshine Park provides a peaceful environment for remembering, grieving, hope and healing.

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October 15: Forever in Our Hearts Remembrance Ceremony

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October 15th is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.

We invite you to attend the 3rd annual Forever in our Hearts Remembrance Ceremony on Tuesday, October 15, 2013, at 7pm.

We will be honoring all babies who will forever be in our hearts due to miscarriage, stillborn, and infant loss at a remembrance ceremony at the Angel of Hope Statue in Sunshine Park.

There will be free parking at Lake Orienta Elementary.  Due to limited seating, please feel to bring chairs for the ceremony.

To RSVP, or for more information, contact: Kristen Bencomo at cflangels@gmail.com or Gary Vogel at 407-260-9222

Click the Location tab for directions to The Angel of Hope of Central Florida

Donations will be gratefully accepted at the ceremony

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New additions to the Angel of Hope statue

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Sunshine Park and the Angel of Hope are ready for our 3rd Annual Candlelight Vigil.

Thanks to the FL SIDS Alliance for donating the poinsettia and for the the City of Altamonte Springs for always doing such a wonderful job in making sure that Sunshine Park and the Angel are looking well kept and beautiful for all of us to share.

Thanks to the wonderful donation and support of the FL SIDS Alliance and the great work of the City of Altamonte Springs we now will have lighting that will illuminate our Christmas Box Angel of Hope.

We will all get to see our Angel of Hope and the new lighting at our annual Candlelight Vigil on December 6th at 7pm.

You can RVSP and have your child’s name said during the ceremony various ways: You can email us at cflangels@gmail.com or message/comment on our Facebook page.

We also have a Facebook Event created as well for your convenience.

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3rd Annual Angel of Hope Candlelight Vigil

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Honoring all parents who have lost a child

Thursday, December 6, 2012

7 p.m.

Sunshine Park

888 Oakland Road

Altamonte Springs

Free parking across from the park at Lake Orienta Elementary School

The Angel of Hope is for anyone who has been touched by the death of a child, it is a peaceful environment for solace, hope, grieving and healing.

You are invited to participate in the remembrance ceremony by laying flowers or other personal items at the base of the Angel. Flowers will be provided, or you may bring your own.

To RSVP, or for more information, contact:

Kristen Bencomo at cflangels@gmail.com or Gary Vogel at (407) 260-9222

Donations will be gratefully accepted at the ceremony

If you are not able to attend but would like your child’s name read in your absence please also email us at cflangels@gmail.com

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